On being happy :)

Of late, I have been feeling intensely low due to several factors. No, I am not going to discuss any of those factors here. However, after analysing the major reasons of my being unhappy, feeling low and depressed, I found that I am attaching, connecting my happiness to some other people’s attitude, behaviour, treatment towards me and the likes. I wonder why! Suddenly an “aha-moment” struck me hard. Why am I doing this to myself? Again, why?!

In one of the movies of The Princess Diaries series, the butler in the movie, Joe, quotes Anna Eleanor Roosevelt and says, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” The quotation had great impact on me and I recalled it today, just in time.

Yes, it is true. I am letting some people make me unhappy. But, what if I stop doing that? What if I refuse to buy their nonsensical excuses on different issues? What if I simply refuse to be taken for granted? I know I can. Then why on earth I am being such a … wimp! I know I will not lose anything by doing that instead, I will feel much better eventually. I suddenly realised I am losing some invaluable time of my life being unhappy and low.

 

I remember a little brother of mine saying, “Happiness is an attitude.” I couldn’t agree more. “Happiness is a mental state of well-being characterized by positive emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”, says Wikipedia. Moreover, there is evidence suggesting that people can improve their happiness. Now, I am running out of reasons why I shouldn’t improve mine! That said, from now on, I decide to be happy. :)

I love - love

Love is, I agree, crazy. But just like all other fools who waste their time, effort, energy and money on love and on someone they love, I do that too. I love being in love. But wish it was easier to love human beings! One of the worst cons of loving someone too much is that the one you love, when he gets too confident and comfortable of the fact that you love him to no end, starts taking you for granted. Sometimes I feel love is overrated. But still, I love to be in love, or is it the idea of being in love that I love! I wonder!

This Valentine’s Day, I know I am in love, but this love is of a different kind. I am completely in love. I have stopped measuring the exchanges of love. I just love being in love with the one I love. We are together and that's what matters the most. And guess what? “We go together like a wink and a smile." Love is infinite. Sometimes, you just don’t say. But love continues. 

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Veppilaikkatti a.k.a. South Indian Behuwa

Today I made Veppilaikkatti. It's a South Indian savoury side dish, somewhat similar to behuwa (Assamese dish). But it has a hot and tangy taste to it. It goes well with curd rice or rice dal. I made it without the red chilli on request. Contact me for the recipe. The basic ingredient of this dish is lemon/lime leaves.

Vertical Gardening and More

Hanging Pots from Koh Samui 

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Night Out in Mumbai

I had a great night out tonight. First stop was the IMAX Dome for a movie, followed by 2 ice tea and paneer kebab. Then a drive around to reach our favourite hangout place for dinner. A Cosmopolitan, some Risotto Siciliano and some talk and laughter at the Pizza by the Bay followed.

Then some dessert.

Then a walk on the Marine Drive. Here is a pic of the necklace of Necklace Road, Mumbai, India.

The night is still young and the journey continues... 

Baandhon

Finally I managed go and watch the much-hyped (because it was released in PVRs and outside Assam) Assamese movie Baandhon by Jahnu Barua. Thanks to my brother +Hiranya Deka! Here is what I felt about the movie:

Pros: 

• The first concept of the love and hate relationship between the old couple was refreshing. 
• Acting by Bishnu Kharghoria, Bina Patangia, Jatin Bora, Zerifa Wahid and others were above ordinary. They are actors in the true sense of the term. Excellent job done! 
• The feel of the movie was good as well. Good DoP.

Cons:

• Excluding the first few minutes of the movie, the entire movie was a desperate attempt to make the audience cry. But none did.  
• Two absolutely beautiful story ideas got wasted in the movie. The first idea of the small-fights between the couple itself could have made a beautiful movie. 
• The second idea of their grandson getting killed in the Mumbai blast of November 2011 makes you feel as if it was aiming for an award. But the plot felt stale. Because it is too late to dedicate it to that incident in Mumbai. Yes, it was brutal and heart-aching. But we do not want to be reminded of the pain now. We are trying to move on. 
• The idea of killing the grandson in the Mumbai blast and the following rona-dhona (excessive crying) made me sick. It was not necessary.

The last Assamese movie I went to watch in a movie hall was Kokadeutar Ghor Juwain. It was fun! Wish I didn’t spoilt my palate by watching Bandhon! Overall, the movie was an emotional atyaachaar (torture)!

+pranab bora +Shantanu Dutta +Puloshka Dowerah +Paragmoni Aditya